AJ turned 34 yesterday and the way I see it he has reached level 34 and he’s just getting started. I’m so excited to see where life takes us together. We’ve grown a family and created the life we want and there’s nothing that can stop us.
I had been planning the surprise party for a week and had butterflies growing in my belly more and more as the day passed by and we got closer to his special day. The day had started rough and as I was on my way to work I got a flat tire and spent two hours waiting on the side of the freeway for the tow truck to arrive. Once the spare was on I went to get a new used tire and was on my way home. The surprise party was at 5 and I didn’t get home until after 2.
As friends started to arrive for the party I thought to myself how grateful I was to be throwing a surprise for the love of my life. I couldn’t imagine my life without my best friend by my side. He makes me want to be a better person. He makes me want to live authentically and always speak my truth. He challenges me and sets the example in himself.
When I think about the illusion of time and aging I think about how much we gain and lose throughout the years. We gain acceptance of ourselves and others. We gain friends and family. We gain more insight on our goals and our dreams. We lose judgment for ourselves. We may lose people along the way. He let go of things that no longer serve us and gain freedom through ourselves.
I’ve gained a love that’s so true and pure. I’ve gained confidence through my blog and I’ve realized what happiness really is. You have to work for happiness everyday. You have to wake up every morning and choose to be yourself and to do the things that make your heart flutter and beat strongly. There will be setbacks and things that try to cloud your eyes from the beautiful things in life, but I want you to remember that it’s only temporary and you will find the sunshine again.
As we waited for the birthday boy to arrive we all enjoyed some Lebanese food and expressed our gratitude for AJ. We went around the table and each shared our experience of him and the gifts he brings to all of us. We said he had the gift of goofiness and we love his weird quirks and personality. We said he was thoughtful and remembered things about people that others might miss. We said he was hardworking and we could always count on him to lend a helping hand. We said that he has an energy that is unmatched. There is simply no one like this man and we all love him very much and are so happy he is alive.
I love his sensitive side and the gentleness he’s not afraid to show around others. Like when he holds me in his arms and spins me around in the front yard in front of all our friends. I love that he’s never afraid to show his adoration for me.
When AJ walked through the front door, we all burst into cheer with balloons of all colors and a song sung in Hebrew for him. We sang, “yom yom huledet, yom yom huledet, yom yom huledet and his Hebrew name. The look on his face went from stress and tiredness to surprise and joy. The look in his eyes I will remember forever. It was a beautiful moment and I couldn’t stop smiling.
This was the first surprise party I had ever planned and it went perfectly. I baked a cake and bought presents and set up the whole thing. I couldn’t have done it without the help of our friends who joined us. It was a wonderful evening and I felt so much love around us.
I hope wherever you are you experience love like this. The kind of love that grows deep roots and brings others together. I hope you surround yourself with people who truly care about you. I hope you’re able to lean on them in times of turmoil and celebrate with them in times of joy. Because you deserve all the love and happiness that life can bring. All you have to do is accept it as it comes to you.