Self love is knowing that I’m responsible for my own happiness. It’s believing in myself and all the things I’m good at. It’s giving myself credit for the hard work I’ve done and forgiving myself for when I didn’t take care of myself. It’s doing the things I love like visiting the barn and being with the horses in the wide open space. It’s writing my soul out on a sheet of paper even when I’m the only soul that reads it. It’s having the courage to stand up for myself when I’m being mistreated. It’s being able to say no without guilt of being perceived as selfish because boundaries are very important. Sometimes it’s just taking a hot shower.
I also know what self love is not.
Self love is not sacrificing my own needs to satisfy the needs of another. It’s not drinking a six pack in a night to fix my problems. It’s not neglecting myself because I’m sad and lonely. It’s not isolation. It’s not beating myself up for past mistakes. It’s not comparing myself to others. It’s not believing I’m better off dead. It’s not questioning my own existence.
Self love is not giving up.
I hope when you think of self love it’s not a chore or a burden. You deserve love and acceptance, but that love and acceptance has to start within you first before you explore another soul. I know that sounds harsh but it’s true.
From the great words of Rupaul: “If you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else?” Amen!!!
I believe in you and I know you can do the hard works to reveal yourself to the world. It’s waiting for you to explore and find meaning in.